Living Your Love Every Day -

Reviewed By Steven Svoboda
Living Your Love Every Day: How to Keep Romance Alive from Beginning to End. By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. and James Sniechowski, Ph.D. 3-Volumes $24.97. www.judithandjim.com/livingyourlove.

Married psychotherapist/author couple Judith Sherven and James Sniechowski have produced another book to help men and women to survive and thrive in their relationships with each other. As far as I know, Living Your Love Every Day is only available through Judith and Jim’s website page given above.

As with all their books, now numbering a half-dozen by my count, Living Your Love Every Day provides much value. While they are both therapists with doctorates and are excellent writers, in the end, their most valuable skill is their ability to sift through their own experiences to find material that will translate to and even enlighten their audience. And their most critical qualification is not their degrees but their success at fostering happiness and renewal in their own marriage despite their own differences and challenges. Living Your Love Every Day parcels outs its wisdom and insights in bite-size pieces, usually two pages long.

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Love help - how do you get love help?

Reading love and relationship books? Talking with friends? Seeing a relationship counselor?

What about taking advantage of one another as love help helpmates? Or are you concerned about appearing to be perfect, or fearful of annoying your partner with your requests for help?

The fact is, we all need gentle reminders from time to time, especially when we’re trying to alter old habits. It’s so easy to just slip back into what you’ve done for most of your life.

So why not get more intimate by inviting your mate to help you — by kindly and gently pointing out when you’ve gone against the behavior you said you wanted to give up or change? To do this, you may first want to discuss how expressing your desire for help makes you feel vulnerable and exposed, if that’s the case. And make sure you both are clear about how
the helpful reminders are going to be delivered and received –as gifts of love — not in any way that is hurtful.

Judith: We do lots of teleseminars and it’s very easy for Jim to get excited about what we’re talking about and then his voice climbs up into his pre-teen octaves.

Jim: So I asked Judith to point it out when it happens. Now whenever she hears me going into that high range she just puts her hand out and moves it downward. I see it and know that she is lovingly reminding me to get back down into my adult body as I speak.

How can you agree to provide more love help to expand each other’s change and growth? And how can you help in a sweetly, loving manner?

Need to know more about letting love lead? Then our program by that name provides the love help you’re looking for.

http://www.judithandjim.com/lettinglovelead

Real love and real romance, the kind that lasts a lifetime, that’s what most people want.

So why does dating have a bad rap? And why do more than half of all marriages end up in divorce?

The answer’s pretty clear when you look at what most people settle for, or worse yet, put up with.

But, the fact is, there’s a world of deep spiritual connection, great adventure, and rich unfolding romance . . . all available when you know
what you’re looking for . . . and how to let love lead every day.

In our twenty years of being together(nineteen married) we’ve conducted an informal survey of couples who obviously have remarkable relationships.

Young and older, they all shared several things in common.

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