Since we’re always prodding you to overcome your fear of being fabulous, it’s only fitting that we keep jumping up and leaping forward - far beyond where we’ve been.

So next week we open our membership site - the Soft Sell Marketers Association - to Beta Members only. That’s because we want to get the kinks and gremlins out of it before we open the doors a bit wider.

Our commitment is to making the Soft Sell Marketers Association - SSMA - the home for Soft Sell Marketers - so that online marketing is no longer so lonely or isolated.

More when we throw the doors wide open!

Start a Freedom To Be Fabulous Journal . . .

For your first entry, write down the one thing you most want in this life that you haven’t been able to make happen.

Then write five “reasons” that you tell yourself about how it is that you’re still going without this prized goal.

Can you see that these are just excuses? Or are you pining after something that is physically impossible for you to have (like being an all-star basketball player, when you’re only 5′ 6″)?

Either way, recognize that you’ve started an exploration that is dedicated to liberating you from the bondage of The Fear of Being Fabulous.

NOTE: Our 12-CD “Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous” program is nearing completion - we’ll let you know as soon as it’s available!

Consider the areas in your life that are less than fulfilling. What’s missing?

What do you want to change?

Where do you want more success?
More freedom?
More love?
More recognition?
More wealth?
More ??????

Pay attention to any areas in your life in which you feel disappointed,
maybe even victimized.

Now, this may feel uncomfortable, maybe even painful.

But that’s okay. It may even be necessary before you can say . . .

“I’ve had it with losing out.”

“My time has to come . . .now!”

And here’s our nudge . . .

What are you feeling right now, in response to our nudging you to look at the results of the fear of being fabulous in your life?

What objections, doubts, worries, anxiety have crept into your mind and body?

All that stuff is your enemy.
That stuff isn’t rightly yours.
No. It’s not.
You got it from someone else.

And now, take a breath.

Because here’s the question for you to explore.

Where did you get those negatives attitudes about yourself and your life?
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Whew! It’s been a couple months that we’ve been intensely focused on our “Bridging Heart and Marketing II” conference, which was a phenomenal success.

Now we’re back and we’ve renewed our dedication to using this blog to focus exclusively on “The Fear of Being Fabulous” and overcoming it.

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Because It’s All in the Connection,

Judith & Jim

Our local Whole Foods market provides a weekly “Taste Treat Sampling Sesison” from 4-6 pm every Wednesday. We’ve got this event in our calendar, it’s such fun!

We’re always pretty vocal about how terrific the event is - telling the servers which samples we prefer - and complimenting Reuben - the store manager - at least we think he’s the manager - for putting on the event.

AND yesterday, Reuben elevated us to “Official Customer Tasters” - starting next Wednesday. We are deligted.

It’s just a little tidbit of what happens when you live fully - when you make yourself known., when you overcome The Fear of Being Fabulous!

So, what’s going on in your neighborhood? Where can you show up and make yourself known!?

And, if that makes you nervous, be sure to get “Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous” at http://www.judithandjim.com/fearofbeingfabulous

The other night we had the pleasure of seeing “LOVE” - the Beatles inspired Cirque de Soleil production here in Las Vegas. Our friends Gary and Joan were in town from New York and invited us to be their guests.

It was a wonderful extravaganza, yet the most touching moment was the final tribute to the Beatles themselves with their song “All You Need Is Love” playing in the background.

I (Judith) left the theater with tears still streaming down my face and Jim was pretty choked up too! Why? Because LOVE is such a powerful force. Yet we’ve all been tarnished and tainted in ways that make love not just natural and normal - but too often threatening and elusive.

And then we settle for the facade of love, the pretense - and rob ourselves and others of the real thing.

So on this eve of Mother’s Day, please don’t just go through the motions as you plan how you’ll honor you and your mother. Make this a time to check deep inside to see what kind of real love you experience in the world - or not - that you experience as a result of your mother. What kind of REAL LOVE do you have for yourself as a result of your mother? Then, after considering these questions - live your Mother’s Day celebration staying true to yourself - to that LOVE for you that’s all important as you go forward in your life.

>>> Want support?

Check out http://www.judithandjim.com/changeyourlife

Especially “Mothering the Girl Within,” “Fathering the Boy Within” and “Womanhood, Power and Identity”

You want more success in your life, right?

And yOu’ve no doubt read or heard the success masters cheering you on
to “live your passion,” “follow your dream,” and allow the power of desire to bring you the success you want.

So have we. Plenty of times.

And plenty of times all we could see in our own life was what we called “creeping incrementalism.” You know, that quarter of an inch improvement - beensy beensy bit by bit.

So it is with great excitement that we share with you
the huge success leaps that continue in our life ever
since the success of our first “Bridging Heart and
Marketing” conference Feb 22-24, 2008.

What has made the difference? What’s the Universe
responding to?

Read the rest of this entry »

Our apologies for being behind in our blog posts here.

Ever since the super success of “Bridging Heart and Marketing I” in February we’ve been challenged by that success! Yes - challenged by success. And on many levels - which we will use this blog to devote our attention to from now on.

On the surface, we’ve been challenged by a huge increase in business phone calls, deadlines, and conflicting priorities. On deeper levels - well, we’ll go into that in future posts.

For now - we want to share this piece by Seth Godin on Facing Resistance

“There’s a myth that all you need to do is outline your vision and prove it’s right - then, quite suddenly, people will line up and support you.

“In fact, the opposite is true. Remarkable visions and genuine insight are always met with resistance. And when you start to make progress, your efforts are met with even more resistance. Products, services, career paths … whatever it is, the forces for mediocrity will align to stop you, forgiving no errors and never backing down until it’s over.

“If it were any other way, it would be easy. And if it were any other way, everyone would do it and your work would ultimately be devalued. The yin and yang are clear: Without people pushing against your quest to do something worth talking about, it’s unlikely it would be worth the journey. Persist.”

(Source: Seth Godin’s blog)

For over 25 years our friends Paul and Sarah Edwards had worked as experts in “Working From Home.” In fact they wrote 16 books on how to choose a secure, meaningful career and to create an enjoyable, comfortable lifestyle. But like most people they were noticing that it’s becoming harder to do. So they wanted to find out what people were doing to adjust to the challenges of today’s economy and still preserve their dreams, or maybe even pursue a lifestyle they much prefer.

So, choosing to step out beyond the narrow confines of their own previous career, three years ago they began interviewing people.

And they were surprised and inspired by the imaginative and innovative options they discovered. In their new book “Middle-Class Lifeboat: Careers and Life Choices for Navigating a Changing Economy,” they share what they learned.

If this speaks to your need to step out beyond your current lifestyle or you know someone who would appreciate the recommendation - here’s more information.

www.middleclasslifeboat.com

Sometimes the smallest of events can make your day worthwhile. Here’s a real-life relatiionship story we just received from our friend Signe Dayhoff that we want to share with you.

Signe writes -

I had to take my mother to Petsmart yesterday. She wanted to get some bird and squirrel food and canned cat food. I retrieved the former for her but she didn’t want any help picking out the latter.

Consequently, I wandered over to where Watermelon Ranch, an animal rescue group, has cats and dogs for adoption within the store.

Anne, an official Watermelon Ranch adopter, and another women were trying to get a dog, that had recently had its hind legs amputated after being hit by a car, to use a doggie cart.

The pooch looked uncomfortable, anxious, and concerned. He wasn’t even trying to move in the contraption. They had been laboring for awhile coaxing the sad-eyed dog with treats … with no success.

I asked if they minded if I tried. They shrugged, said go ahead, but didn’t think he was likely to cooperate after just having been placed in the harness.

I talked intimately to the pooch, started scritching his head, then slowly showed excitement in my voice. Then I moved back a few feet, got down on my knees, slapped the floor, and used my best doggie encouragement voice. “Come on!” I said more excitedly.

The dog’s eyes shone. He started wagging his tail. Then he cautiously made two steps toward me. I hugged him and praised him. Walking 10 feet away, I repeated my playful beckoning routine.

The dog’s tail whipped the air. He raced toward me, like a newbie Indy driver, giving me a great big doggie smile as he scooted along.

I felt aglow, almost unbelieving, like a newly-announced MegaMillions lottery winner.

Later, just as Mother and I were about to leave the store, Anne put whipped cream and a cherry on top of the sundae. She signaled me from across the store front. Smiling, she nodded her head to the side, “And you were going to leave without saying ‘good-bye?’”

I looked down. Racing toward me was the pooch. He moved with the ease and confidence of one born with his new “legs.”

I felt a huge smile catch in my throat. “Come on, baby!” I called out, kneeling.

Like a kid experiencing pride in his first two-wheeler achievement, he rolled thirty feet across the tiled floor, past other customers, straight into my arms. The next minute we were a tangle of wiggly hugs, neck scritches, and doggie kisses – a moment you can’t manufacture but can joyously revel in.

*** To learn more about real love and real loving go to:

http://www.judithandjim.com/whatislove