Last week we received this comment in response to our post, “Love Challenges.”

” I wonder why all too often we want to change someone but we don’t realize we are doing it until the relationship hits crisis point or ends…
awareness of being controlling can be uncomfortable and takes courage to do something about.”

Indeed! Indeed!

It helps to remember that our early training in relationships is as a child with our parents, teachers, baby sitters, coaches, and everyone else trying to change us -

And sometimes it WAS for our own good - BUT plenty of times it was for their own comfort.

Unless and until we get conscious about this almost knee jerk impulse to try to change the people we say we love - because that’s as natural sas breathing based on how we grew up - we can’t do much about it.

BUT when you are clear that being fabulous - for you and for everyone else - can ONLY come from the freedom to BE fully expressive - then you can have a much wider base of patiehce and understanding and a richer base of compassion for yourself when you fall back into being controlling.

 

 

 

 

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