Love help - how do you get love help?

Reading love and relationship books? Talking with friends? Seeing a relationship counselor?

What about taking advantage of one another as love help helpmates? Or are you concerned about appearing to be perfect, or fearful of annoying your partner with your requests for help?

The fact is, we all need gentle reminders from time to time, especially when we’re trying to alter old habits. It’s so easy to just slip back into what you’ve done for most of your life.

So why not get more intimate by inviting your mate to help you — by kindly and gently pointing out when you’ve gone against the behavior you said you wanted to give up or change? To do this, you may first want to discuss how expressing your desire for help makes you feel vulnerable and exposed, if that’s the case. And make sure you both are clear about how
the helpful reminders are going to be delivered and received –as gifts of love — not in any way that is hurtful.

Judith: We do lots of teleseminars and it’s very easy for Jim to get excited about what we’re talking about and then his voice climbs up into his pre-teen octaves.

Jim: So I asked Judith to point it out when it happens. Now whenever she hears me going into that high range she just puts her hand out and moves it downward. I see it and know that she is lovingly reminding me to get back down into my adult body as I speak.

How can you agree to provide more love help to expand each other’s change and growth? And how can you help in a sweetly, loving manner?

Need to know more about letting love lead? Then our program by that name provides the love help you’re looking for.

http://www.judithandjim.com/lettinglovelead

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