WANT TO KNOW THE # 1 REASON LOVE ISN’T ALL YOU'VE IMAGINED?
The # 1 Reason . . .
It doesn’t matter if - - -You’re in a relationship – a good one – but you know that love has more to offer and you just can’t find the key . . .
If you're single and can't get started finding a serious relationship . . .
Or if getting started is easy for you but then love fizzles out and you have to start all over again, and again, and again . . .
Or the worst of all possibilities, you’ve been burned so many times that you don’t believe in love any more . . .
There is a reason . . .
The # 1 Reason . . .
And it is - - -
YOU'RE NOT LETTING LOVE LEAD
Realize Your Soul's Deepest Longing For Love
" Judith and Jim are not only wise and perceptive, but delightfully practical. They take us step-by-step toward realizing the spiritual richness and depth that most people only dream about. They help us realize our soul's deepest longing for love."
- John Amodeo, PhD, author of The Authentic Heart
There Was a Time . . .
There was a time when we had the same frustration. That was back more than 20 years ago before we met and married.
Judith was the dater – over and over and over again. She used to say to herself - - - “I know I could do well in a marriage if I could only get into one.”
Jim went from relationship to relationship including 2 marriages. He would say - - - “Getting into a relationship is the easy part. But how do you make them last?”
So . . . the maddening, frustrating fact is that dating and relationships left us wanting . . . and wanting and wanting.
Back in those days, if anyone had told us that we weren’t letting love lead, we would have dismissed them as just spewing more New Age Relationship babble.
But that dismissal would have been, in reality, the power of our refusal !!
Models and Mentors of What's Possible
"After struggling through so many disappointments, I am so grateful for every second I have with my husband, Mark. And it's thanks to Judith & Jim who have been my models and mentors of what's possible!"
- Beth Davis, Hand Analyst and Personal Coach
The Power of NO !
“No” is a very powerful word. Some people believe it is the most powerful word in any language.
Why? Because it closes out all possibilities.
When you say “No,” the game’s over . . . no matter what game you’re playing. And you’re left standing fixed in one spot. Not moving. Stuck !!
And if you’re like most everyone else . . . and you are to some degree . . . you use every intellectual, emotional, spiritual tool at your disposal to rationalize and justify being stuck.
You call it integrity, will, determination, loyalty, self-control - - - but what it is is just plain stuck.
That’s what “No!” buys you. Being stuck.
We can hear you thinking . . . “But there are times when “No!” is utterly appropriate.”
Of course there are. But that’s not what we’re talking about here.
"Judith & Jim's work is filled with great wisdom about what makes romantic relationships succeed or fail -- perfect for anyone who wants to love consciously. "
-- Nathaniel Branden, PhD,
author of The Art of Living Consciously
To Love Is to Move, to Change
Here are two real facts about love . . .
One -- when you love you are changed.
Two -- when you are loved you are changed.
Love is the most powerful change agent in the world. To love for real is to be open to what love brings. That openness is the antidote to being stuck.
But that doesn’t mean you are open to everything.
Real love . . . REAL LOVE . . . is not stupid. It’s not dangerous. It can sometimes be painful, but it is never, never destructive. Saying “No!” — being stuck — that’s destructive.
Real Love calls you to say “Yes!,” because real love will lead you toward exactly what you need . . . whether you know it or not, whether you like it or not . . . what you need is to move past refusal into the world of possibilities that real love offers.
We have 20 years together . . . and we have expanded our capacity to love, to live, to receive, and to give in ways that are far beyond anything we imagined when we first met — only because we’ve made it a habit to practice Letting Love Lead.
" Judith and Jim are so comfortable with love that they help us to be unabashedly ambitious about bringing love into our lives — and keeping it there. "
- Pepper Schwartz, PhD, author of
Everything You Know About Love and Sex is WrongWho We Are
If you already know who we are please skip this section.
But if you’ve found your way to this site through surfing, or you’ve been referred by a friend and you don’t know who we are, here are a few of our credentials to clarify why you should listen to what we have to say and continue reading.
Our public credentials – we’re husband and wife Judith Sherven and Jim Sniechowski and best selling authors of four relationship books —
- Be Loved for Who You Really Are
- Opening to Love 365 Days a Year
- The New Intimacy
- The Smart Couple’s Guide to the Wedding of Your Dreams
As you can see, we focus on love and relationships.
We both have PhDs, Judith’s in psychology and Jim’s in human behavior. We’ve been guest experts on more than1500 radio and TV shows including Oprah, The View, Canada AM, The O’Reilly Factor, 48 Hours and CNN. We’ve written for or been interviewed by hundreds of publications including the Los Angeles Times, Wall Street Journal, USA Today, TIME, Newsweek, O, Redbook, Playboy, Parents, Cosmo, Men’s Health, and many, many more.
And we’ve worked with thousands of couples over the last 20 years in our private practice, in workshops, teleseminars, nationally and internationally.
But we believe our real expertise comes out of living what we teach – walking our talk.
We’ve been married for 19 years and we know about what we call - - -
Practical Real-Life Love
Don’t let the word “practical” put you off. It’s not like being practical somehow wipes out romance. Nothing could be farther from the truth about real romance and real love.
Practical love is even more romantic than any romantic fantasy you can dream up. Why? Because fantasies usually burn out and leave you hurt, alone, and bewildered. Not so with real-life love.
" Judith and Jim blend poetry and spirituality with practical, down to earth advice about love in its many forms and stages."
- Sidra Stone, PhD and Hal Stone, PhD, authors of
Partnering: A New Kind of Relationship
How Will You Benefit?
The truth is, without knowing you personally, we can’t know how you will benefit specifically.
But we do know that you will. Why?
Because when you Let Love Lead the benefits are automatic .
Here’s just a glimpse of what you'll enjoy from Letting Love Lead:
- Love is fun.
- Love is always a two-way street
- Love opens you to receiving love
- Love emerges from the two of you
- Love eliminates the need for control
- Love expands your sense of who you are
- Love takes you beyond what you’ve imagined
- Love always shows you what is best for your relationship
AND you know with certainty that you are being loved for who you really are .
What You Can Do
What if you could enjoy the benefits real love promises? Like . . .
Open to receive love
Eliminate the need for control
Expand your sense of who you are
These are just 3 of love's gifts listed above . . . plus the virtually limitless possibilities real love promises.
If you realized just one of the many benefits of real life love. . . you know you couldn’t put a number on that kind of joy. It would be priceless.
That's why we want you to experience our “Letting Love Lead”audio file PLUS the PDF transcript download, for the special price of . . . only $37
Because we want you to be able to trust love. For real. Not a fantasy, or wishful thinking. But a fact. And that’s a promise.
And if you're not totally delighted, let us know and we'll refund your money.
Open Yourself and Let Love Lead
Say Yes Now!
Yes Now! It’s All in the Connection,
Judith & JimPS - Because you've read this far, we know you are serious about wanting more love in your life. And we congratulate you!
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