Relationships|Judith and Jim

NEW LIFE, NEW LOVE

Judith and Jim — Sun, 20 Jan 2019 20:34:55 +0000

A few years ago we moved to a tiny mountain town, out in the country of upstate New York from Santa Monica, CA — to live in a 200-year old farm house on 2 acres with a pond. This move has opened us in so many ways — ways we could never have predicted. But first we had to trust our impulse to take a big leap, to let go of a need for certainty. […]

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CONFLICTS CAN BE ROMANTIC?

Judith and Jim — Sat, 29 Dec 2018 20:13:51 +0000

Romantic conflicts are as common as . . . Chores, Money, Sex, In-laws, Holidays, Feeling Ignored, Vacations, Disciplining the Children, Enough Time Together, Lack of Listening, Dirty Fighting, The “Right Way” to Do Things, “You Just Don’t Get It,” and on and on . . . And you’ve got your own unique trouble spots that make conflicts even more confusing. That’s why we offer 5 keys to a romantic outcome, when you know how to […]

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MAKE YOUR WEDDING TRULY MEMORABLE

Judith and Jim — Tue, 06 Nov 2018 20:17:43 +0000

We know you want your gown to be gorgeous, your flowers beautiful, and your party joyous, and they will be. But will your guests — will you — remember those things several weeks later? As disappointing as this may seem, that’s not what people will be talking about even the day after. Nor is it what you’ll be talking about over dinner together on your first wedding anniversary. It’s your unique ceremony, your special vows, […]

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LOVE AND PREJUDICE

Judith and Jim — Mon, 15 Oct 2018 20:27:16 +0000

Much of what you learned about love and intimacy may no longer work. Conventional ideas of relationship and marriage don‘t leave much room for who two people are as individuals. Centuries-old gender stereotypes have forced men and women to play out predetermined roles. They prejudice and limit what can happen. As a result, relationships often feel like exercises in futility, leaving people enraged or depressed wondering — “What’s the point?” But the source of prejudice […]

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12 SECRETS TO GREAT ROMANCE FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE

Judith and Jim — Sat, 08 Sep 2018 20:37:44 +0000

You can have The New Intimacy in your life. And, it’s easier than you think! All you have to do is begin practicing the first of these ten steps. When you feel comfortable, add the next one that attracts you most. Before long you’ll notice a difference in your confidence, self-respect, your capacity to give and receive love and, of course, the intimacy that makes it all worthwhile. See what magic you create! Step 1: […]

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ASKING

PlanetLink — Wed, 22 Aug 2018 20:30:54 +0000

No matter how much two people have in common, they will always be different in many ways. And that can be challenging. Do you feel you can speak up about issues that bug you, hurt you, scare you when your partner behaves in ways you don’t like? Or are you afraid that speaking up will threaten your relationship? If you fear that speaking up will make too big a problem, then you’re voting for your […]

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THE FIVE KEYS TO THE NEW INTIMACY

Judith and Jim — Sun, 03 Jun 2018 20:22:17 +0000

Since you probably received no formal training in how to date effectively or create a successful, long-lasting marriage, here are the five keys to creating a new intimacy, an emotional intimacy that takes you beyond sex-roles and techniques and tolerance, and moves you deep into the heart of a relationship that respects and values both of you. 1. Your partner is not you. In every relationship there always are two distinctly different people. In the […]

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FERTILIZE YOUR LOVE

Judith and Jim — Tue, 22 May 2018 19:37:07 +0000

Winter’s come and gone. And now, how does your garden grow? No doubt it’s survived some difficult times during these past months, and yet it’s still there waiting for you to grab your favorite seeds, a bag of mulch, the trowel, and your flowered gloves so you can transform it into this year’s paradise. That’s not unlike the path of progress for romantic relationships. They, too, go through challenging conditions followed by new times of […]

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Be Sure to Laugh & Play

Judith and Jim — Thu, 26 Apr 2018 19:33:49 +0000

Perhaps you’re in a long-term relationship and the joy is gone. You don’t want to be with anyone else but you wish it could be more fun, more exciting. Do you miss when you were younger and felt more comfortable being silly and playful as a form of real romance? Did you get married and decide you had to act like “grown-ups” and a lot of the fun went with it? Or have you always […]

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LISTEN TO YOUR SELF

Judith and Jim — Sat, 07 Apr 2018 19:30:16 +0000

One of the markers of childhood is the need to have the environment – that is the family, neighborhood, church, etc. – provide a sense of being alive. For example, mothers are constantly creating things for their children to do to keep them busy. So children learn to rely on what’s outside of them as a source of their life. They are children and have little internal sense of self they can rely on. But, […]

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